This seems like a very strange post to be writing “A Guide To Bereavement Gifts” so if you are thinking the same thing, I get it. I never knew what to give when someone close to me lost a loved one so I thought this mini guide could be helpful to some.
When I lost my Grandfather the day after my birthday this year I received really special gifts, notes, and sentiments. I had never lost someone I was so connected to. After going through this experience I noticed that the people saying the things that meant the most to me or sending the things that touched me deeply, had all been the same people that lost someone they were also very connected to. It was just an observation not a judgement or anything. I wanted to share 4 things that were given to me that helped me grieve, mend, and remember.
- A Tree
A week after my Grandfather passed I received a large package in the mail that said immediate attention required. It was a lovely start of what would become a beautiful Dogwood, and I planted it in between the kid’s outdoor box gardens. Sent with the tree was a silver plaque engraved with the words “No Compromise.” To understand the significance of that read the Eulogy I wrote, here. I put a small American flag next to that tree (he was a WWII pilot) and I think of Grandpy every time I walk by it. It also helps serve as a reminder to my kids that his spirit will always be with us. I know my Grandfather would be so proud of that tree, and that flag. Check it out, here.
- A Necklace
Not just any necklace. I met a woman on vacation years ago that had lost her 2 year old son that same year (you can read about that, here.) She lives in Tennessee and we would stay connected randomly on social media here and there. When a box showed up in my mailbox with this I couldn’t believe my eyes. I had posted something in my Instagram stories about a letter my Grandfather had written to me. She pulled his signature from it and had it engraved on this necklace. This could quite possibly be the most touching gift I have ever received. I have always believed Jamie and I were meant to meet at the time we did.
Seen on Etsy
- Wildflowers Seeds for a Memory GardenI had never heard of his before but when I saw seeds in beautiful velvet pouches I thought what a wonderful way to remember a loved one. The kids and I spread the seeds to build our “Memory Garden” within a private nook on a hike we like to take. The kids love finding their private little garden and often note that they feel Grandpy Lloyd’s spirit when they visit.
- Wooden Manifestation Boxes
These boxes are made by a Reiki Master and attuned with Reiki. You can put writings you want to manifest in your life or well wishes to heal after death. When you drop the paper in the box it is infused with Reiki. It’s a little esoteric, but very touching, unique, and personal.
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These things all remind me on a daily basis that my Grandfather is watching over me, and help to mend a broken heart.