I don’t know much about attachment style parenting but I know I must not practice it. It’s not that I don’t love a good ole fashion cuddle or getting in close with my babies and kids, I just happen to relish in their independence. I feel like it’s my job to make them comfortable with themselves in the world, outside of me. And I don’t feel like that creates ill-will or discourages bonding, in fact I think it’s the opposite. I like them to know they will always have a safe place in my lap, but have the courage and confidence to be alone. Maybe this is why I never liked “wearing” my babies? I mean how can they experience the world if their head is always buried in my chest? And maybe I’ll get crucified for that (she doesn’t snuggle her baby??) but I would much rather watch them learn and engage even at the earliest of ages. Doing this for my other 2 children so far has produced some lively, fun kids so I’m happy to encourage it. We even ditch the stroller early, I like my kids to get out and walk – even if it takes us 3 hours to get anywhere.
This all said, when you have older children running around, there is no other option but to “wear” your baby if you want them included in your adventures as a family. I don’t let him miss out on our hikes. I wear him….so he can feel the breeze from the wind on his face, see the shadows, and smell the pine.
I don’t let him sit in the travel system at the Zoo. I wear him…maybe he’ll sense something new in his little world.
He’s coming to Storyland with us this weekend and guess what? I’ll be wearing him (not on the rides.)
The only product I can use as a “Non-baby-wearing-but-still-wearing” kind of parent is the BabyBjorn. More specifically for me, the Baby Carrier One. Because there’s no frills, no extra pieces, and doesn’t look like I’m wearing something that belongs on a broken arm. It’s rugged and keeps up with our fast paced lifestyle. I’m not going to lie and say my back never hurts. My back always hurts. Yesterday I walked around the house looking like the witch in Snow White & The Seven Dwarfs until my husband finally begged me to sit down. “I can’t, it hurts to sit” I said. “How did you do that?” he asked. “Picking up the baby. Feeding the baby. Picking up the toys. Carrying a 3 year old. Jumping on the trampoline. Picking up the toys. Feeding the baby. Carrying a 3 year old.” He’s probably sorry he asked. But it’s my fault, I need to remember to lift with my knees. Even with this back pain I can wear the Bjorn, because it feels secure enough every single time, and gives me the right support where I need it. They even make an Outdoor Baby Carrier One version which Hubby will be testing out on our New Hampshire hikes this weekend for #dadstories…
So there you have it. That’s how a non-baby-wearing Mama wears a baby. And I’m not shy about putting this thing to work. Ever gone pee wearing a baby? (Looks around and raises hand.)
How do you guys feel about baby wearing? Is it a necessary evil? Do you love it and why? Share on my social pages!
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