Today I dropped The D Man off for a half day of daycare so I could meet with the lovely people at BabyBjorn. I had forgotten his Sleep Sheep so I asked if they had a sound machine. The Director (love her) said she used to but got rid of them after “the study” came out. Apparently the study no longer recommended them for infant sleep. Um, what. We have like 5 sound machines on three levels going on at any given time. I…can’t….even. She went on to say the study was something about letting the babies hear silence and not get used to the white noise. I stopped her, I couldn’t hear anymore. We live in the city! It’s either white noise or construction trucks! And what would Harvey Karp say about losing one of his “S’s!?”
Normally I would be all over this you guys. Googling said study like crazy because obviously Google knows everything and obviously I just want to being doing the right thing for my babies. But this time around I will not do it to myself. I will not look it up. I will not make myself crazy. I. CANNOT. EVEN. The sound machine WORKS for us. Isn’t a sleeping baby better than a baby who doesn’t sleep but gets to hear silence? Either way I’m in the process of convincing myself that today.
I called my constant voice of reason (my Mother) to lament about this. She told me to ignore it. She told me that my sister and I are amazing Moms doing the best we can for our kids every day and to not let even the notion of one study make us feel otherwise. Then she ever so delicately reminded me that “Life causes death, honey” and well that put things in perspective for me.
So if you came across something this week that drove you nuts and/or made you second guess yourself as a mom just Don’t. Even. It. And I just told myself this: “If I’m doing my best for my kids, isn’t that really all they need?”