Toddler transitions are like bowel movements. It hurts a little until it’s over then you’re typically happier all around. Switching from a crib to a bed was the transition I was dreading the most. I would have kept Miss P. in a crib until she was ten if it were allowed. Because let’s be honest, a crib is a padded prison cell. At the end of the day you know your child is safe in one place. You can finally rest easy after a long day of chasing them around. Until they try to break-out.
The first time she swung her leg around the side rail I completely ignored it. Once she realized it didn’t get a reaction she didn’t try again until a week later when she really didn’t want to nap. When I went back in after not seeing anything on the monitor, I found her playing with her stuffed animals on the floor. This is what my face looked like minus the suit and tie:
No seriously my world exploded into a million tiny wooden pieces. I knew it was time to switch but I just couldn’t picture her in a bed without falling out. I couldn’t picture her having free reign of our top floor. I couldn’t picture her without her head snuggled into the crib bumper every night or not being able to twist her body into a full circle. I liked my little prisoner and I didn’t want to set her free.
I also didn’t want her to break a limb. I took the plunge and researched the hell out of toddler beds. I finally came across one on the recommendation of a friend. It was perfect – low to the ground, side rails, big enough to allow 360 circles all night long and a cool canopy with a peek-a-boo window to boot:
I bought an extra comfy Minnie Mouse comforter and two fluffy big-girl pillows. I took every single stuffed animal she owned and put them on her bed. I even hung her tutu’s on the wall so they could “watch her” while she slept. Go hard or go home, right?
I had never child-proofed the room so I went and bought furniture straps, outlet plugs, window locks and all of the other things I should have done when she was 6 months but never did because we never left her alone. (City living here, folks.) The room was complete and it was an all day f’ing event. I walked out of her door and thought Crap, I just walked out of her door. So I went on Pinterest and got really inspired by this cool idea to keep her inside the room without having to lock her behind closed doors:
And that inspiration lasted for about 10 seconds before I reminded myself that I don’t own a tool to cut a coconut in half let alone a door so I settled on a baby gate. Damn you Pinterest with your false hopes and dreams.
After all of this…….I left the crib in her room. Here’s one thing I’ve noticed about myself during these toddler transitions: I don’t give her enough credit. Was there any reason I needed to leave that crib in there? Absolutely not. I just wasn’t ready to let go. And if I wasn’t, how could I expect her to be? I was so afraid this would fail, I wanted a fall back.
But it didn’t fail. She loved her big girl bed and embraced it. I could tell she enjoyed the freedom and responsibility that came with having it. What better lesson than to empower your child with that feeling? Sometimes I’ll watch her in the monitor quietly climb out of her bed to get a drink of water on her dresser and then climb back in to snuggle under the covers. A huge sense of pride washes over me. Not because I did anything right, but because my three year old embraced the transition better than her 35 year old mother. I eventually took the crib out of her room. It’s in pieces in our bedroom awaiting storage. Miss P. walked by it on the way to the bathroom the other night and nonchalantly asked: “My crib is all done, Mommy?” Choking back tears I replied “Yes sweetheart, it’s all done. You’re my big girl now.”
The bed I went with was a Maxtrix Kids Playhouse Bed w/ Toddler Safety Rails and can be purchased at Sweet Retreat Kids. We decided to buy a full size and add the optional canopy section. It is a well constructed modular furniture system that will grow with your child in many different configurations. We plan to use it as her bed well into her teen years. The customer service I received from this company was impeccable.
I hired a Task Rabbit to put it all together.
Bedding and pillows were purchased at Target.
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