Mom-shame. Most definitely the worst kind of shame out there because like come-on don’t judge me. No one is perfect. We are all trying to figure it out. And we’ve all been there, right? Why the face.
Here’s a little excerpt from a blog post I wrote in 2012 dubbed “Tales From A Competitive Mommy …. (Errr, Bitch.):
“Hubby and I brought Little Miss P to the Science Museum on Sunday. They have a great infant room where kids under the age of 12 months can play around in. There was one other couple there with a boy just about P’s age. Hubs and I really enjoy watching P do her thing in a new environment. She’s such a curious little creature; I love that about her. Said boy comes crawling over to P and starts to play with the ball she had. I think the social interaction of two infants is really cool, I could sit there and observe it all day. Enter Competitive Mommy = CM: “No, No you can’t take that ball away from her she has that ball now.” I start to reply as a way to ease any awkwardness, “Oh, it’s okay they don’t know the difference they are just playing, it’s ok.” CM after yanking her kid away from Miss. P and saying in the most annoying of teacher-voices: “It doesn’t matter if they don’t KNOW you still have to teach them right from wrong.” Taken aback I respond: ”Oh, Ok, well, she is used to this she is in daycare 3 days a week so kids take toys back and forth all the time” CM with a pursed mouth: “Isn’t that sad if that is what they are teaching her in daycare.” (Um, did that just happen?)
That was 4 years ago. I was a new mom questioning everything I did. I’m not a new mom anymore but regardless of how many kids you have or what age they are, aren’t we all just trying to do the best for them?
So let’s hear it…
Have you been MOM-SHAMED? Have you encountered a “MEAN GIRL” situation in your parenting? Tell us your story on our social media pages and/or tell us how you handled it. We can all benefit from hearing other people’s experiences and hopefully in the end raise awareness that mom-shaming is not okay.
#MIMSTAKE: There is no script for parenting. There is only a right way for your kid and only you know what that is. Be confident. Don’t judge others in attempt to make yourself feel better. Support. Rise Up. Let’s create a village, not a battlefield.