I come from a family of all girls; girls everywhere in multiple generations of sisters and cousins. When I had Miss P. it felt natural because I’d been around girls my whole life. When I found out I was having a boy it didn’t really hit me until I saw him on my chest. I felt nervous about caring for this tiny human from an unknown world. You hear so much about the differences between girls and boys. Here’s what he’s taught me in the last 10 months:
10. Boys clothes are cute, too.
It’s true. People always talk about wanting a girl because they can dress them up in fun outfits. But boys clothes, although mostly simpler than girls clothes, look pretty darn amazing. I would even venture to say that boy’s clothes are cuter than girl’s clothes. (Take her away!)
9. Boys love unconditionally.
Our daughter makes you work for it. She’ll be all yours but you must put in the time. I don’t mind this trait in her. In fact I think it will come in handy when she’s older. But this boy is all love. No conditions: no matter who, no matter what, no matter when.
8. Boys love to cuddle.
I don’t know why I thought this wouldn’t be true. I just figured boys would be too busy to stop and want to cuddle. “Boy,” was I wrong.
7. Balls are weird.
I had my suspicions.
6. Boys are aggressive…but sweet.
Here’s a situation: My 10 month old child is sitting in a playroom and another child comes over and takes her/his toy. This is how my daughter would have handled it – Cried. This is how my son handles it – bulldozes himself into said kid until toy becomes his again. Laughs hysterically. Gives the toy back to child to try again.
5. Boys will make you boy-crazy.
Oh how I used to get annoyed hearing Mother’s talk about their sons. It’s like ok we get it, you gave birth to Jesus. Or Moses. Or the next King of England, whatever. But here’s the deal – boys have a way of making mom’s fall in love with them in a completely different way than girls can. It’s like we’re crushing on our high-school sweethearts all over again with miniature versions of our husbands. (Psst: They crush hard, too. Boys love their mamas.)
4. Boys like books.
Again, I don’t know why I just figured boys would be naturally drawn to brawn. You know, gross-motor type stuff. But my son can sit in his carseat and flip through a book for a good 15 minutes. That’s like a light-year in baby age.
3. Boys are needy, too.
There is an age-old belief that girls tend to be more needy. Here’s the deal: BABIES ARE NEEDY. End of story.
2. Boys don’t mind the dirt.
Duh, right? But by this I mean dirty diapers. My daughter would never sleep through a poop at night and she would communicate to me in her baby way when she had poop in her diaper during the day. My son could sit in poop for hours happy as a … well… pig in shit.
1. Boys will teach you to adapt.
And so will girls. And so will any baby that enters your life. In order to even take a stab at being a successful parent, you need to first realize there is no exact formula to raising kids. Every baby, just like every person, is different. And that, my friends, is the beauty of it.
– MIM –
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